Big feelings. Big faith. Big loyalty. That describes me
Sunshine in the middle of a hurricane.
My home is my reset button since I’m a classic introvert needing quiet time to recharge. This looks like candles lit, a fire going on cloudy days, cozy always winning over trendy. I live the gluten-free life (aging has opinions), but I’ve perfected my survival formula: Coke Zero with a splash of regular Coke. If you know, you know.
The real MVPs?
Spock, my Golden Retriever (fully committed to both Star Trek and Star Wars, I refuse to choose).
Twix, our bunny who joined the family thanks to my youngest, Levi. and Cinnamon our second bunny who joined our family because Gary walked into a feed store on Easter weekend (do not recommend)
And then there’s the crew.
Three biological kids.
One adopted child (with her hubs and two kiddos.)
Six stepchildren.
It’s loud. It’s layered. It’s bold blended chaos that I am still navigating; but wouldn’t trade
Saving the best for last: Gary.
We were married in September 2023, and my kids say he’s the calm to my storm and the ice to my fire.
I just know he’s my best yes.
The truth?
I love real life! The messy and the beautiful. And I love helping women walk through the rebuild after the storm, because I love seeing God’s redemption.
If you need someone who will hand you tissues, truth, and a gentle tug forward, I’m your girl.
That’s what a big sister does.
I’m a certified Christian counselor and life coach, a speaker, and the author of Beautiful You and Beautiful Calm. I’ve spoken at churches and women’s ministry events across the country.
But more than any credential, I know this road from the inside – not from a textbook.
I see you fighting those tears while folding laundry or sitting in your car after another exhausting court date. That knot in your stomach feels permanent these days. Breathe with me, in through the nose, out through the mouth. There you go. I know right now you’re toggling between “I can do this” and “I’m literally dying” (about fifty times a day). The emotional whiplash is real! Trust me, I’ve been where you are – wondering if the fog will ever lift. Everyone’s got advice but nobody really gets it.
Enter God’s Girls! You can log in right now and get exactly what your broken heart needs – permission to heal and life coaching to rebuild. Healing shouldn’t be another overwhelming item on your to-do list, you need something that meets you right where you are. This community delivers cozy comfort, scripture that actually helps, journal prompts that don’t make you roll your eyes and little treats that feel like a big hug. This is a place to belong with women who understand exactly what this season feels like – guided by someone who has walked it all the way through and come out the other side..
I’ve learned to live in the space between the now and the not yet, this is the place where God forms my heart.
Somewhere in that space, I realized I can hold two truths at the same time. That a healthy marriage reflects God’s good design… and that strong doctrine and memorized scripture don’t make us immune to divorce. That healing and pain can coexist with joy and peace. That being deeply loved by God doesn’t exempt us from walking through hard things.
And trust me, Jesus and I have walked through some very hard things together.
I spent 23 years in a “christian” marriage that clawed its way through ten years more than it should have and still met a bitter end in divorce. I’ve lived as a married single mom. I’ve faced trauma, betrayal, mental health struggles, the heartbreak of losing custody of my daughter, cancer, learning to manage an autoimmune disease and huge financial setbacks.
It wasn’t neat. And it certainly wasn’t the plan I imagined.
But God …
He met me in hospital rooms. In courtrooms. On quiet nights when I questioned everything.
Somewhere in the rebuilding, I found love again. I remarried. We are building a blended family that feels like grace layered on grace: loud, complicated, stretching us in all the right ways, and somehow still full of joy.
Here’s what I know now:
God’s love is not fragile.
It doesn’t disappear when life breaks.
It doesn’t shrink when circumstances don’t line up with scripture.
His love is deeper and wider than we can measure, and stronger than the chapter you’re in.
If you’re walking through your own messy middle, He has not abandoned you.
God is not intimidated by your story.
He is already in the middle of it.
That’s why I built God’s Girls. Because when I came out the other side, I looked back and thought – no woman should have to find her way through this alone.